When I was very young I loved watching fairytale movies. Every fairy tale story has its own happy ending. I also dreamed of finding the right person and having my own “happily ever after” ending.
I told myself that I would be very careful in choosing someone when I got married. I was so afraid I would make a mistake in choosing someone to trust and later on have my marriage fail. My mother always told me that choosing the right person to marry is the most important and critical decision you will ever make in your life.
Most people believe in a soulmate. They believe that there is someone who is really destined for you. I thought it was true too, but as I’ve grown up, I have come to understand that it is I who will decide. It is I who will make that certain man the right one and perfect for me.
Dondi and I were really good friends before we fell in love with each other and got married. I have come to know some of his strength and weaknesses. I got to know what he likes and what he doesn’t. We both knew that we were not perfect individuals before we got married.
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“Be worthy of the mate you choose, Respect him or her. Give encouragement to him or her. Love your companion with all your heart. This will be the most important decision of your life, the individual whom you marry.” – President Gordon B. Hinckley
Marrying him is the most beautiful thing and the right decision I ever made in my life. But just like older people say, marriage is not like a bed of roses. Along your journey as husband and wife, there are trials and challenges that will come. Your love and loyalty to each other will be put to the test and your commitment to each other will be measured. There will be times when you might ask yourself if you married the right person.
I am grateful for the restored gospel. It guides us in our everyday lives. It brings us hope that families are forever. It reminds me of who I am and helps me understand my role in the Lord’s great plan. Every time I felt like I am already pushing my limit, my Father in Heaven helps me remember that I have a husband who will always help me with my weakness and imperfections.
I remember asking the Lord many times if he was the one for me, and I know Heavenly Father has helped me know that he was the right man to marry. My husband shared with me once his great secret to remaining strong. He said, “You know what, Mama? Since we got married whenever I am having a hard time at work or problem, I always go back to the feeling that I had inside the temple on our wedding day. That feeling comforts me that the Lord gave us His blessing in our marriage. I know that He is guiding us.”
After hearing that from my husband I know for sure that it is true. There may be times when our trials will make us weak, will show our differences from one another, but I hope that you never forget the reason why you chose that person to be your husband or your wife.
None of us are perfect, but if you can accept your spouse’s weaknesses, if you are willing to help that person be at his/her best every day, while they help you in turn, then you absolutely married the right person.
